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pianocat
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| 05/17/2009 9:26 PM |
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I am not married; so the most important man in my life right now is still my father.
Here's the problem: I greatly appreciated the enlightenment in FMO about women talking out problems, not because they needed help to fix it, but because they needed someone to validate their feelings.
My father is a man of prayer...but sometimes when I mention a problem I am having, he jumps in with spiritual advice: "you need to go spend some exta time in prayer...you need to read Scriptures...you need to this..."
He doesn't say it in a kind way, but in a "preaching" voice...in a harder, "you'd better be listening!" tone.
I am a born again Christian, and I do spend time in the Bible and prayer, but I get frustrated when my father jumps in with this advice. I feel that HE feels that I'm having problems because I haven't prayed...and he still needs to instruct me on what to do...and he knows I'm getting frustrated, and thinks it's because I'm offended because he's right and I'm not doing my job spiritually...
Is this a typical male response of trying to fix things? Am I getting hurt because I'm wrong, or because I'm a typical female needing a totally different kind of response?
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Travis
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| 05/20/2009 10:33 AM |
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First off, I think that your father maybe doesn't quite understand what your looking for. Has he read the book? (seriously, but its also funny too) I assuming that your Dad is "older" and therefore he might be a little old fashioned.
I don't think your wrong, nor do I think your father is wrong. God does want us to come to Him for everything. So, I can see that your father is pointing you to God. And your looking for someone to understand your feelings and to be able to relate; theres nothing wrong with that.
Your father sounds like a very wise Christian, and he may not realize that when you go to God and pray or read that it doesn't all of a sudden make you feel good. Don't get me wrong, we should be completely fulfilled by God's love. BUT, we screw up all the time and we are left empty. God created a man and then realized that it would not be good until he created a women. So we need each other. I can see where you are needing your father. Sit down and talk with him about this. First show him that you understand where he is coming from, and then tell him where your at, and why it just isn't that easy.
I hope this helps, let me know if you have any other questions.
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~And in the end, The love you take
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